I know that most people usually don’t feel good all the time. How? By my own life experience :).
So that’s one fact. What I also know is: People don’t just feel bad (unless you just burnt yourself …) There are always words and/or ipictures and images that start the feeling.
Maybe you are one of those persons, who are really fast – and you haven’t noticed the relationship between what you think and how you feel, yet.
That is about to change.
A couple of weeks back I talked about negative self-talk and how to overcome it by building a supportive, positive and productive inner dialogue.
Today let’s focus on those internal images and pictures you make in your mind.
Let me be clear about this: don’t expect those internal images to look the same as the images you perceive directly via sensory input. Usually the internal images are bit less strong and clear. This is actually a good thing, because it’s a great thing that you can distinguish between real images and imagined images!
By the way, this post is not about positive thinking. I like the idea that you think positive and know that it’s the chain from thinking to feeling to taking action that serves you so well.
Me myself, I’m really good at making good images – I don’t know why, but I can’t really make bad images, and when I come across some, they seem to vanish into the distance automatically, while they get all blurry and turn black and white, like those old movies …
And from my coaching and training experience I know that there are a lot of people out there, who used to be really good at making them bad images. And as a result of that they used to feel pretty bad quite often.
So what do you do with these internal images, these pictures?
Let’s first establish, that these pictures, these images are in your mind. If they are on the outside, in the world around you, my simple advice is: You walk away from them or tell them to leave.
Number two: It’s you, who is making these images. They may be memories, things you once saw – and for your brain it doesn’t matter, if you saw them in real life or in a movie.
That’s one of the reasons I only watch fun movies 🙂
And know I don’t know, whether this comes as a surprise to you: Since you are making these internal images and pictures in your mind, it’s up to you to change them.
Yes, that is your job. Nobody else can do it for you.
I can help you, by showing you how to do it, then it’s your turn.
What’s fantastic about this is that you have a strong ally in this task, who is supporting you on many levels: The other-than-conscious part of your mind is just waiting for you to give it the go ahead signal to start transforming you thought process and thereby to help you to feel better fast.
I would like to make a cut here and jump to another situation. Because I learned that it is even easier to do this by starting with a pleasant situation, so I invite to make a short and simple thought experiment with me.
Choose a pleasant situation that you like to remember, a time, when you felt really good.
This works best, when you pick a scene from your life that brings a smile to your face immediately. 🙂
I don’t know, if you have realized, yet, that for the other-than-conscious part of your mind it doesn’t matter at all, if you are playing with bad images or good images. It’s all about structure and form.
So what you are doing right now in this thought experiment is playing with good images, beautiful pictures in mind. This way you test and learn.
To start I have some questions for you: The images of this nice situation, where are they? Right in front of you? To the left, to the right? How far away are they? Are they bright or dark, in color or black and white? Do you see slides or a movie? Are they clear or blurry? How big are the images? And: Do you see yourself in the images or are you right in the middle of it?
I am sure you’ve already noticed, how good you feel, when you look that closely at those pictures.
Step two is that you start to change the features of these pictures. (In NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) we call them submodalities.) One after the other. And while you do this you always monitor your good feeling.
How does your feeling change, when you pull up those pleasant pictures real close and make them big? What happens, when you make them all blurry? What do you experience, when you step out of or into the pictures?
All human beings are unique and yet we have more in common than things that separate us. That is to say, it varies from person to person, which of these changes has the strongest impact on you. Maybe it’s in the colors, maybe its the size, or it’s the stepping into the picture that makes the difference for you.
You could call this fine-tuning of your emotions, because that’s what you’re doing. You improve the quality of your thoughts and thereby automatically the quality of your emotions and I don’t have to tell you that the appropriate actions follow immediately.
Does it suffice do to this once? Usually this works really fast, because you are so enthusiastic about the enhanced quality and intensity of your good feeling that you keep practicing this over and over again.
This is a game and one really worthwhile playing. Another way to cherish the moment 🙂
So what about those bad internal images, those bad pictures, we talked about in the beginning, before you started experimenting with your good feelings?
Well for some of you have already realized that the other-than-conscious part of your mind was reading and experimenting with you and has immediately applied what you have learned.
Because it doesn’t matter at all, if you take a bad or a good picture, the changes you made work both ways. You know how to intensify a feeling and you know how to diminish a feeling and that’s what you do.
I want you practice with the pleasant situations first, because they are more fun and fun is a very important part of every successful learning process.
That way learning is easy and you learn fast.
Maybe it came to your mind already how relaxing these thought experiments are and this is so.
Have fun in playing with and in your mind and enjoy yourself, because that’s what you’re here for!